Being a socialite such as myself I face a lot of social rudeness amongst the otherwise sociable figures of the city. These occurring activities have been reported from friends and people who I have encountered with. I have also witnessed and became a victim many times. Some people may not know that these things they do to people are not polite or they do not notice that they are doing such a thing. Not that you could help these things from happening to you, but maybe I can get the message out to everyone that we can all enjoy our nights out without all these things happening to us. Some of the things I have listed can be avoided.

1. The hair/head rubbing must stop! We (I say “we” as I represent every women and men) spend a lot of time to make our hair look nice. Some of you just throw on gel or hairspray, but a lot of us actually curl our hair using rollers and curling iron to get volume or waves. It would be nice to go through the night without someone rubbing your head like you are a little kid. Think about someone stepping on your newly bought $1000 pair of Gucci shoes.

2. This just happened to me recently. I was meeting my friend at an upscale hotel bar, as I was walking through the crowd I noticed a man who I have known for about 11 months. Unexpectedly this man who happens to be a business man in his mid 40’s had a lollipop in his mouth and blew his breath at me. Of course I had a reaction that most people would have if that ever happened to them, I gave him the unpleasant face and said this: “That is the rudest thing you can ever do to someone! No body wants to smell your breath, for all I know you can get me sick!” I was happy that I spoke loud enough so his colleges could look over and hear me. At this point, I’d rather smell manure then his breath. I no longer respect this man. Had his Mom taught him any manners? Apparently not!

Note: He tried to add me as a friend on Facebook the next day. I denied and blocked him. A week later he sent me a text saying “Happy Thanksgiving”! There were also other incidents when he would grab my butt when he saw me walking by. I don’t tolerate these things. It wasn’t hard for me not to reply to his message.

3. If you just read one and two; we are now getting down to some serious business. This inappropriate incident happens to everyone. Guys and Gals please pay attention. No matter where you come from smacking someone on their bootie is not a way of saying hi. It is rude and IT IS sexual harassment. There are other ways to approach a man or a woman. I’ve actually been told this; “Where I come from this means hi”. Truth is I don’t care where you came from!

This is more towards men. What is the deal with grabbing a girl’s hand while she is walking by? Don’t you find it rude if someone grabbed your girlfriend’s hand as she is walking towards you?

Bottom line, think about it if you had a daughter or a sister-would you want them to be treated like you just treated these girls? Case closed.

This is the biggest reason why I hate the crowd. Don’t get me wrong, I love going clubbing, socializing and what not but I just think people need to realize that the bigger the crowd the more people you will end up bumping elbows with you, stepping on your foot, and spilling drinks on you. Some may even grab you in an area you don’t want to be grabbed at. You either ignore the incident or you can confront the person causing these incidents.

I think if you bump someone or step on someone’s foot you should expect a holler back and not be surprised by their reactions. I’m 5’2” so I always get knocked over by the elbow, getting my foot stepped on and drinks spilled all over me. Here’s how I deal with these situation:

Acknowledge the fact that you just got stepped on or hit with an elbow. Say “ouch” or something, he/she will look around to see what just happened. They will keep on walking if you don’t say anything. If you are the one to bump them, then just excuse yourself, say “Oh excuse me, I didn’t mean to bump you”. Try to make it as simple as that; don’t let it become a big deal. You have other places to get to. Drama is not going to make things better.

Picking out an outfit is not easy, especially if you want to wear light colors. There’s not really a way to avoid getting drinks spilled on. Here’s the solution. Always wear something dark, especially if you’re on a date. At least it’s not so obvious; your shirt/top/dress will dry out during the night. Most night clubs are dark anyway.

The last advice I have is just to ignore the whole situation and get on with your night or just go to another place that you think won’t be as busy. You don’t want to make a big scene or give bad impressions to your date. Don’t go on a first date to those crowded places. You’ll have a hard time hearing each other. Getting to know your date is top priority.

Be well, drive safe and drink in moderation!